| "How to Make Any Member of the Opposite Sex Instantly Like You: Create Instant Rapport with the Object of Your Desire in Less Than 30 Seconds"
 he science of Neuro-Linguistic Programming has brought to light a 30-second technique you can use to make people like and trust you instantly without their knowing why. It also makes people want to be with you and get to know you better. It's called the Mirroring Technique.
I'm sure you can imagine how useful this technique can be when you're dating, or looking for ways to connect with members of the opposite sex.
The Mirroring Technique is based on the assumption that people feel comfortable with people who communicate non-verbally the same way they themselves do. In other words, we quickly develop a bond with people when their body language (gestures, rhythm of speech, facial expressions, rate of breathing, eye contact, etc.) is similar to ours. Why? Because these non-verbal cues get noticed at an unconscious level.
Next time you're in a social gathering, observe the way people who genuinely like each other behave. They mirror each other's non-verbal gestures unconsciously and naturally. What's interesting is that you can consciously mirror the non-verbal gestures of the person with whom you want to gain rapport and achieve the same result.
Mirroring sends an unconscious message to the other person that says, "You're very much like me" depending, of course, on how well you mirrored them.
Let's begin by taking a look at a typical social situation two women sitting next to each other at one end of a bar, engaged in friendly conversation, and speaking in modulated vocal tones, laughing softly every once in a while. What do you think their impression would be of a man who intrudes on their conversation by being boisterous and loud?
Chances are, their first impression would be negative. That's because we tend to be "turned off" by people whose non-verbal communication is different from ours.
To create rapport with others instantly, we only need to "mirror" their non-verbal communication. For example, if the other person talks softly, then you talk softly, too. If the other person leans forward, you lean forward as well. If they speak in a rapid tempo, you do the same. In other words, you match the other person's body language and tone of voice. The only time when you shouldn't match another person's non-verbal communication is when that person is angry. In that case, you'd instead mirror concern.
It's easy to get people to feel comfortable with you in a matter of moments. Here's one word of caution, however: Mirroring does not mean "mimicking." For example, if the other person is sitting with legs crossed at knees, you may choose to cross yours at the ankles. If the other person has both arms resting on the back of a sofa across from you, you can have one of your arms slung similarly on the back of your chair. If the other person's arms are folded across their chest, you may choose to have yours crossed on your lap. You don't have to mirror the person exactly just similarly. Otherwise, your actions may be misinterpreted as being contrived, even annoying. You must mirror in a way that looks and sounds natural, of course, so that you can get phenomenal results.
Mirroring is easy and best of all it works. When you use it properly within the first few seconds of an encounter, you'll improve the impression you make on virtually anyone - regardless of their age, gender, ethnic background, mood, or the situation. Mirroring plays a major influence on whether people will like you, trust you, be attracted to you, go out on a date with you, or entertain the prospect of becoming sexually intimate with you. Use it wisely.
Now that you know how to use non-verbal cues to get people to like you, here's how can you use olfactory cues to score yourself a *homerun* with the opposite sex:
Read "Pheromones: Mysterious Agents of Enticement" at:
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