| Psychology of Love
Today I figured I would leave the topic of online dating and focus less on GETTING a date and more on what to DO on a date. You may be surprised to hear that there is an entire section in psychology dedicated to dating and romantic love (if you're not surprised, then you're like me and love watching those Human Species shows on the Discovery Channel).
So yes, there is a science to dating.
What does this mean for you, the normal non-scientific man or woman who just wants to meet someone? It means that if you follow a few simple guidelines in planning your dates, you could have better results in establishing that chemistry we all strive for.
One of the conclusions the real world "love doctors" have come to relates to the concept of body "chemistry". Think about that guy or girl of your dreams becoming a reality. What happens to your body when you are struck by a crush? Your heart beats a little faster, your palms sweat, and your stomach may even do a mini-flip. This physical reaction is translated in your heart and head as GOOD sexual chemistry.
These reactions and what they mean are the bases for many psychological studies. Psychologists have discovered that if you can artificially create these types of physical reactions in your date, there stands a better chance for a second date. Why? Because you tend to relate these physical reactions not to what you are doing but to whom you are with.
How does this relate to you? Well, think about how this information can help you plan your first date. What types of activities cause your heart rate to go up, your palms to sweat and your stomach to flip a little (besides fooling aroundthis is a first date we're talking about here)?
1. Go out for coffee. Caffeine (as we all know on Monday at 9AM) is a stimulant, and causes your heart to race and your palms to sweat.
2. SUGAR. Another stimulant. Go to a bakery and indulge in some chocolate cake or cookies.
3. Combine number one and two for a double whammy.
4. Amusement parks. Nothing like a roller coaster ride to get your heart pounding, your stomach jumping and may even get you clinging to each other out of fear!
5. A jog through the park. Exercise can get your heart racing and will put some color in your cheeks, making you look healthy and naturally sexy. It will also give you a chance to show off your body to your date if you want.
Now, I am not a scientist, so I do not want you to think that if you follow this advice you will be in a serious relationship after one date, but why not try it out and see what happens? The worst could be that you get hyped up on caffeine, have an extra dessert one day or get an extra workout in during the week.
Goal of the Week
Plan a first date using the information above. See what happens, and let me know at info@luvessentials.com
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